I've found depite what Ibis suggests video games are a bad common ground between friends. Also typically you have to be friends with someone for a good while before they become a confident. Get yourself a girl, they become confidents much faster.

Wow Doomed, you read my mind on the first suggestion that I considered .. a girlfriend .. but then I thought maybe that would be moving too fast. A girl whose interested in you would be ideal because it would certainly "lift your spirits", put spring in your step, etc. and also girls are more sensitive to problems and actually like to listen to others which I think sometimes guys just gloss over between themselves. You guys have to act so rugged, I don't know how you do it sometimes ... I guess it's the training from an early age.

I don't know why you think that video games aren't good between friends, but I wouldn't know about between friends ... I play with my husband and I know it draws us closer. But it might be different for friends. I mean really, sometimes when we are out in the wilderness of Guild Wars or Shadowbane together I really feel like we are in real life backing each other up in battle ... like Conan and Valeria .. I love it. But video games are not as good as face-to-face relations in real life.

Wurlon, how about this? You and Dave both like Metallica, right? So why don't you suggest sometime that the two of you go to the Mall or music store and buy or check out Metallica albums. Especially if you've got enough money to buy one that you don't have, you could ask him to come along to offer his advice in choosing. Or just to browse if you don't want to buy. And then while you're there, suggest looking around at some of the other stores, check out the chicks, grab a bite to eat ... just go and have a good time. Get to know each other better. It'd be a good way to see what other common interests you have and get seen by the girls as eligible guys on the hoof. Or however you guys say that now.

Concerning a 3 year depression, that's a long time for steady depression. If you started keeping a journal or mood diary it might help you ... I'm glad you said that it has been slowly getting better. That's a good sign.

I once gave advice at a forum to a guy who really wanted to meet girls and didn't know how to exude confidence at dances ... I told him to take dancing lessons. Not only to learn to dance, but to learn to socialize at the classes where it didn't matter so much before going to the dances with his peers. He did sign up for the dancing lessons but then he got so nervous, he couldn't go through with them. But later, his sister taught him to dance and that really did help him and broke the ice and he was launched into meeting people and making friends.
So I won't tell you to take dancing lessons ... but any chance that you get to socialize just a bit or say a friendly hello to a neighbor and launch a small conversation would give you conversational skills that you could then use at school or the mall or wherever you could make friends with people your own age.

Eh you make things sound so easy.. me and Dave have all the metallica albums already btw.. but I am terrible with girls. Not only does my speech slur if I really like them, but if they get to know me I spill out my feelings like a waterfall. About the jounal, I did start one and thats all I did.... after the first time I thought "journals aren't for me" because I felt like I was writing an english essay. Also no girl admits to actually liking me, I'm what they like to consider "weird". I do talk to some girls on AIM but I don't even know if I'm on their friends list.. for all I know they could be thinking "god will this freak shut up"

How come when I am given advice ... teh solution is a problem in itself... what have I done to put myself in this mess!

And I'm not lying, but I play Starcraft online and I'm in a clan (group, persay) and I met a girl who had quit a long time ago. It was only a day ago that she returned and we were playing together joking around like online friends do.... but later I guess she was horny or something and she kept telling me she wanted to make me dirty lol! I'm pretty sure she was joking but soon after I talked to her and spilled out everything I had to say about what I thought about girls, sex and all that and even complimented her for listening to me, told her she had the most soothing personality and she told me that was the sweetest thing someone ever said to her.. and she is supposedly 17.

Even if its just online.. I swear to god I feel so much better. Urgh god my blood is pumping, I haven't felt this happy in so long.. imma cry i'm so happy. Omg I know it might seem like you guys didn't do it but you did ahah! My god LOOK A SMILEY omfg I'm calling up some people tomorrow.. its time to change my life. Stupid depression! BEGONE

You guys are heroes.

This post has been edited by Wurlon: Jul 18 2006, 08:21 AM

This is not a post, this is a figment of your imagination.

This post has been edited by Kiln: Jul 18 2006, 08:26 AM

lol Kiln that was good advice, you shouldn't of done that lol... it was just a little too late

Well if you saw it then thats all that matters now isn't it?

True, true Kiln ... that was sneaky of you though.

Wurlon I am soooo happy for you!! Of course online friends matter ... Doomed rocketed my spirits with a pm the other day and Pisces ... well, he just keeps in touch like no other online friend I've got. He even keeps me informed about mutual online friends we have that I haven't talked to in so long.

Wow, you lucked out about this girl being so flirty. Or maybe you just really DO instinctively know the right thing to say, little lone wolf. Seeing your smilie face did my heart so good I just can't tell you! You are the hero also for beating the depression.

Oi! I'm the lone wolf.... or at least i was until minkey decided i was Wolfie

I know you are Wolfie ... that's why I called Wurlon the little lone wolf. I think he is younger than you - I could be wrong. Just seems that way.

Well i suppose i can let you away with that one then.....
And he is younger than me, apporx 3 years . Well, that's if he put his real date of birth in his profile thing...

Yes, unlike Pisces. I wonder if I put mine? I think I did. When I first talked on Morrowind websites, I'd knock 10 years off because I figured everyone would think I was ancient and not like me. But then i saw that there were some people older than me. So now I don't care.

I can't believe you thought I'd flame you. Sorry if I came off as that kind of person, it's just that in my experience, bullshitting people doesn't help them, and I'm here to help. Or at least try.

The last two sentences make me think that it's just the whole adolescent depression stage that a lot of people go through. The fact that it's getting better is a good sign; I'm sure you'll get through it soon.

eh I don't think if its me, but this seems ironic

Aquarius
January 20 - February 17
Today is a powerful day for you, dear Aquarius. Your emotions may be a bit stubborn, but realize the very thing you are resisting is the thing you need the most. Consider making a major change in your life that will help bring about a more healthy balance between you and the people you associate with. It may be time for a whole new outlook on how you deal with your relationships.



Nah that is my true birthdate, I'm a honest person... I actually waited until I was exactly 14 to sign up for MySpace.. but then I was too lazy to actually make a profile rofl!


eh I think maybe God blessed me yesterday (erm or very early today ;P) because my sister got her wisdom teeth out yesterday (Monday) and I stayed home in case she needed stuff and THREE friends on my AIM msged ME to see what was up... that was like M-Azing. And then of course, the online friend helped me later unknowinly (She keeps calling me cute >< god I hope it isn't a guy) and well, I DID realize something yesterday.

This isn't the only place I've spoken of my problems, but it is in detail here. Usually I discard information I thought would not work... but now I see that its all important in its own special way! But really my only problem is being social, so I guess I should look over all those social ones again ;o I mean I'm still feeling happy right now but depression is evil.. it lurks around the corners! Eh but from advice, I just have to not let things bother me so easily.. insults, bad days ... which I guess accumulated too much. I really don't know lol but I like being happy and understandable than depressed, mean and inconsiderate.

Edit: I meant to tell all the good things that happened yesterday but I was so happy and it was so late (around 3:00 in the morning or so) that I only told the one part and then wandered around a little ;P



To tell you the truth, I really look forward to coming here with no other purpose than to talk! I used to just want to check up on Tes F'ruum but now that I have found that this place is full of nice people it gives more meaning to post each time ;p

This post has been edited by Wurlon: Jul 18 2006, 04:07 PM

I'm glad to hear that things are going a bit better, even if only for today. Sometimes all it takes is a moment of sunshine to brighten up the day.

Wurlon! I´m so glad things are improving for you! I´ve been watching this thread every day to see how it turns out and if you are responding to ppl:s posts!

Why you are such a sweetie, so no wonder some girls will make friends with you.....and maybe more than that!

So now I´ll cross my fingers even harder for you.......

Yes yes, everything that Minque said above - I agree. I too have checked everyday. We are like mother hens, Minque

You know, actually filling out a MySpace would be a good move - a lot of people socialize that way. It's low impact, a lot easier than meeting face to face for the first time. Also easier to get ahold of someone after school etc.

Another EXCELLENT reason for you to start your own MySpace is that you could be part of the Chorrol friendship circle there. Doomed, Black Hand, Intestinal Chaos, Geonox, Me ... and you! If you join (I need more members on my friends list) tee hee ((Did you ever notice that friend minus the R is fiend? weird)) Try taking the R out of some words - it makes an interesting difference sometimes.

So anyways, I'm glad to hear about yuor 3 internet friends calling you, as well as the girl who thinks your cute. You see? That shows you have a good personality because it comes acrost over the internet. That horoscope was Right-On .... things are looking up for the Wurlon beastie. haha

Eh well I don't know how to make a myspace page either >< and I don't have a recent picture of myself.... parents were having too much fun on vacation and dropped it on a concrete walkway. Yes, it was supposed to be durable but the battery compartment was damaged and we haven't gotten a new one yet. I really don't know, I know A LOT of people who have MySpaces but you know.. I'm shy like that.



Aww thanks minque, your WAY sweeter than me though! I mean, I don't know how or why this girl finds me sweet but I"ll go along with it.


This post has been edited by Wurlon: Jul 19 2006, 03:05 AM

Wurlon, I'm "afraid" that I'm going to have to jump in and call you a hero. Your problem, and eventual climb to happiness was a wake up call for me. I find it amazing that we share many traits actually. I've been reading the posts and your shyness (which may or may not exist, because you seem to be scoring with teh ladies), your age, and a lot of other things. Its darn time I get the courage to do what you've done. Congratulations on finding a piece of happiness, theres a whole pie out there somewhere waiting for you.

Thanks, man.

This post has been edited by gamer10: Jul 19 2006, 06:13 AM

heh, I wish I had just gotten a girlfriend instead of the drug thing.

Heh dude that was A LOT OF LUCK and I guess a whiff of my personality ;p