I would disagree with Ibis (in a small way) & Neela and say that humans are wired up for polygamy; I see humans characterising basic animal instinct all the time. For the male it is to sleep with as many females as possible and try to stop any other males from mating, (most) guys don't because they know its wrong but it comes across more subtily. Women sleep with only the best male, best doesn't mean good looking, best means confidient and able to jump over many hurdles, you see many woman making men go out of their way for them and they always seem to go for the confident jackasses, well thats the same way men are tested in nature. Now lots of people will try to say I'm wrong because they are thinking of this blatent sense rather than subtile instinct. Think about how girls interact with men, there are "friends" who are not considered sexually and then there are love interests who the girl will seek out; men can be shifted catagories easily as a women might develop lust for a woman, but it is always on or off. Men are more blurred and are often very attracted to their friends but simply ignore it because they are friends. Thats because women are only ever attracted to their alpha male(s) while men need to be attracted to as many women as possible.
While males are wired up for polygamy I think monogamy is better option because polygamy gets far too emotionally complex. Especially in a time where men aren't going out and dieing so the male/female ratio is fairly even.
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