Depressed? Insane? Options

[Wurlon]

Ever feel so depressed and insane that you sometimes question whether you are dreaming or the swirling world around you is a grim reality? I really can't tell anymore... every passing day brings more proof of my insanity and I keep feeling a rage.. to do something. I worry whether its for good or bad.

Help? No one seems to believe me or understand me anymore. Maybe I should just take a whole bottle of Advil and get my wretched existence over with. God turns his cheek to me.

[Ibis]

Wow Doomed, you read my mind on the first suggestion that I considered .. a girlfriend .. but then I thought maybe that would be moving too fast. A girl whose interested in you would be ideal because it would certainly "lift your spirits", put spring in your step, etc. and also girls are more sensitive to problems and actually like to listen to others which I think sometimes guys just gloss over between themselves. You guys have to act so rugged, I don't know how you do it sometimes ... I guess it's the training from an early age.

I don't know why you think that video games aren't good between friends, but I wouldn't know about between friends ... I play with my husband and I know it draws us closer. But it might be different for friends. I mean really, sometimes when we are out in the wilderness of Guild Wars or Shadowbane together I really feel like we are in real life backing each other up in battle ... like Conan and Valeria .. I love it. But video games are not as good as face-to-face relations in real life.

Wurlon, how about this? You and Dave both like Metallica, right? So why don't you suggest sometime that the two of you go to the Mall or music store and buy or check out Metallica albums. Especially if you've got enough money to buy one that you don't have, you could ask him to come along to offer his advice in choosing. Or just to browse if you don't want to buy. And then while you're there, suggest looking around at some of the other stores, check out the chicks, grab a bite to eat ... just go and have a good time. Get to know each other better. It'd be a good way to see what other common interests you have and get seen by the girls as eligible guys on the hoof. Or however you guys say that now.

Concerning a 3 year depression, that's a long time for steady depression. If you started keeping a journal or mood diary it might help you ... I'm glad you said that it has been slowly getting better. That's a good sign.

I once gave advice at a forum to a guy who really wanted to meet girls and didn't know how to exude confidence at dances ... I told him to take dancing lessons. Not only to learn to dance, but to learn to socialize at the classes where it didn't matter so much before going to the dances with his peers. He did sign up for the dancing lessons but then he got so nervous, he couldn't go through with them. But later, his sister taught him to dance and that really did help him and broke the ice and he was launched into meeting people and making friends.
So I won't tell you to take dancing lessons ... but any chance that you get to socialize just a bit or say a friendly hello to a neighbor and launch a small conversation would give you conversational skills that you could then use at school or the mall or wherever you could make friends with people your own age.

[Wurlon]

Wow Doomed, you read my mind on the first suggestion that I considered .. a girlfriend .. but then I thought maybe that would be moving too fast. A girl whose interested in you would be ideal because it would certainly "lift your spirits", put spring in your step, etc. and also girls are more sensitive to problems and actually like to listen to others which I think sometimes guys just gloss over between themselves. You guys have to act so rugged, I don't know how you do it sometimes ... I guess it's the training from an early age.

I don't know why you think that video games aren't good between friends, but I wouldn't know about between friends ... I play with my husband and I know it draws us closer. But it might be different for friends. I mean really, sometimes when we are out in the wilderness of Guild Wars or Shadowbane together I really feel like we are in real life backing each other up in battle ... like Conan and Valeria .. I love it. But video games are not as good as face-to-face relations in real life.

Wurlon, how about this? You and Dave both like Metallica, right? So why don't you suggest sometime that the two of you go to the Mall or music store and buy or check out Metallica albums. Especially if you've got enough money to buy one that you don't have, you could ask him to come along to offer his advice in choosing. Or just to browse if you don't want to buy. And then while you're there, suggest looking around at some of the other stores, check out the chicks, grab a bite to eat ... just go and have a good time. Get to know each other better. It'd be a good way to see what other common interests you have and get seen by the girls as eligible guys on the hoof. Or however you guys say that now.

Concerning a 3 year depression, that's a long time for steady depression. If you started keeping a journal or mood diary it might help you ... I'm glad you said that it has been slowly getting better. That's a good sign.

I once gave advice at a forum to a guy who really wanted to meet girls and didn't know how to exude confidence at dances ... I told him to take dancing lessons. Not only to learn to dance, but to learn to socialize at the classes where it didn't matter so much before going to the dances with his peers. He did sign up for the dancing lessons but then he got so nervous, he couldn't go through with them. But later, his sister taught him to dance and that really did help him and broke the ice and he was launched into meeting people and making friends.
So I won't tell you to take dancing lessons ... but any chance that you get to socialize just a bit or say a friendly hello to a neighbor and launch a small conversation would give you conversational skills that you could then use at school or the mall or wherever you could make friends with people your own age.

Eh you make things sound so easy.. me and Dave have all the metallica albums already btw.. but I am terrible with girls. Not only does my speech slur if I really like them, but if they get to know me I spill out my feelings like a waterfall. About the jounal, I did start one and thats all I did.... after the first time I thought "journals aren't for me" because I felt like I was writing an english essay. Also no girl admits to actually liking me, I'm what they like to consider "weird". I do talk to some girls on AIM but I don't even know if I'm on their friends list.. for all I know they could be thinking "god will this freak shut up"

How come when I am given advice ... teh solution is a problem in itself... what have I done to put myself in this mess!

And I'm not lying, but I play Starcraft online and I'm in a clan (group, persay) and I met a girl who had quit a long time ago. It was only a day ago that she returned and we were playing together joking around like online friends do.... but later I guess she was horny or something and she kept telling me she wanted to make me dirty lol! I'm pretty sure she was joking but soon after I talked to her and spilled out everything I had to say about what I thought about girls, sex and all that and even complimented her for listening to me, told her she had the most soothing personality and she told me that was the sweetest thing someone ever said to her.. and she is supposedly 17.

Even if its just online.. I swear to god I feel so much better. Urgh god my blood is pumping, I haven't felt this happy in so long.. imma cry i'm so happy. Omg I know it might seem like you guys didn't do it but you did ahah! My god LOOK A SMILEY omfg I'm calling up some people tomorrow.. its time to change my life. Stupid depression! BEGONE

You guys are heroes.

This post has been edited by Wurlon: Jul 18 2006, 08:21 AM